Taming the 500 Pound Gorilla
by Tony DiLeonardi
Helping clients recognize that fear is a result of change is the
first step to embracing change, but your work doesn't stop
there. Human nature requires that we deal with the change in
our lives. Ignoring the issues brought on by change can only cause
our fears to grow in ways that we are less likely to control. It
can even divert our energy from addressing the most critical
problems which can be akin to worrying about the flower beds when
there is a 500 pound gorilla on the lawn!
However, the challenge is not to cross the line of dealing with
our fears to obsessing about them―a phenomena that I refer to as
"fanning the flames." Rather than worrying about the past or
POSSIBLE events that may happen, the focus should be on
constructive ways to deal well with change.